Motherhood fundamentally changes us by forcing us to focus our time and attention on a little human being who is helpless without us. We pour our hearts and souls into our children. When they have a need we are right there. When they have a want we do everything in our power to fulfill it. We sacrifice our time, money, bodies, and often even our careers for then. Their safety and well being becomes a priority over our own. Although we would do it over and over again, it is physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted.
For many women, this leaves little left to put into our spouse. Our relationship from which our children came gets neglected. Most of us married our spouse because we enjoyed their company and and wanted to spend our life with them. Yet, we often take them for granted. If we nurture the marriage relationship we not only strengthen our marriage, but also ourselves.
Having a lot of young children is not conducive to regular nights out on the town. Several years ago we started having at home date nights. We would take turns planning fun things we could at home after the kids were in bed. We really enjoyed these dates! It was like we were dating again. It rejuvenated us and was something fun to look forward to each week. When Alex was born, we got out of the habit. It's something we really need to start doing again.
Make your marriage a priority to keep your head above water.